5 days ago I decided to make a big change in my life instead of complaining and nagging about not having something nice to wear.

IF you want to change something in your life then do it, wishful thinking is not enough.

I don’t like the fact that I can’t fit in my favorite jeans or my cute party dress, so I took a step forward and decided to join a fitness program I can do from home.

So I took leap of faith and sign up for a program that works around my schedule, and around my family needs.

This is a good example of things that CAN be done if you just take the first step and make a commitment to change your life to something BETTER.

You might think ‘oh it’s easy for you to say Carmen, but I’m way too busy to add something else in to my life’ that is just BS.

I work FT 5 days a week outside the home, I cook a healthy dinner every day for my 3 boys, then I have to spend time with my toddler and help my other sons with homework, then I have to tend to my home and husband, I could easily say the same thing “I don’t have time” if I have time to sit down and turn the TV on, then I have time for a workout and make things happen. It’s all about priorities.

Another excuse I hear a lot is, ‘I can’t afford it’, oh but you can afford to eat out 4 times a week? In today’s economy if you are eating out,  it will cost you approximately 15$ a person X 2 that’s 30$ not including tip, so that’s a total of 120$ a week, 360$ a month. All that money could be invested in yourself and a good fitness program; you will save money and will look awesome at the end

It’s a matter of priorities my friend, so think very hard and make good decisions to change your life NOW.

To your health,

Carmen

Hearing a friend speak about her marriage problems reminds me of how important it is to have couples counseling/marriage counseling.

Some people think it’s wrong to share marital problems with a total stranger. But when it comes to saving your marriage, it is worth talking to a stranger.

Who else are you going to talk to?

are you going to talk to…..

someone who isn’t married, but you expect wise counsel from this person?

someone who likes to make fun of you?

someone who likes to gossip?

someone who is on a worst position then you are?

You Should Instead…

Seek wiser counsel!

Douglas and I are blessed to have an awesome couple as our marriage counselors (Ellis and Cindy Paz) they are awesome with us and very patient. They showed us how to communicate with each other, how to listen and how to treat one another.

I don’t think we would have lasted this long without marriage counseling.

Help is out there, it is up to you to get it.

Love,

Carmen

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There was a time in our life where we use to set goals, at least we thought we were doing it right, but never met our goals. We (Douglas and I) tried really hard to do things our way, thinking it was enough, but never thought of asking for help. Of course we kept on trying but we couldn’t really understand the point nor the process of setting a goal and actually achieving it. Every Monday was a new start, but on Wednesday we would forget.

Then one day, we heard about this awesome workshop where not only you learn how to set goals, but also how to step by step achieve them.

So of course Douglas and I decided to sign up and attended the workshop. To our surprise we were not the only ones trying to set up goals and trying to achieve them; I was so happy and didn’t feel like a failure.

Douglas and I are very thankful to Edward Paz and his vision for DYBYE to help everyone learn how to set Goals and have the BEST YEAR EVER!

If you want to know more about this non-profit and the next workshop, check out the website and sign up for the newsletter. http://designingyourbestyearever.com

Remember to Design Your Best NEW Year Ever!

Love,

Carmen

As Thanksgiving approaches, I hear a lot of people talking about what they are grateful for.

The sad thing about this is that I only hear it once a year.

Why have we become such robots? Why do we only celebrate it on a specific day?

Thanksgiving should be celebrated every day.

We should always count our blessings before start nagging about how bad we have it.

Giving thanks every day, helps you realize the opportunities that you have in front of you in order to do something great with your life.

Giving thanks every day, helps you love your spouse more each day no matter what.

Giving thanks every day, helps you start an awesome and productive day.

Giving thanks every day (no matter how bad things are going) gives hope to others around you.

Celebrate Thanksgiving every day; make it a habit and part of your life.
Be a positive energy to those around you, you never know who’s watching; you never know whose life you are going to touch.

Love,

Carmen

A good mentor is always helpful!

I’m sure that you, like everyone else were a…

Bumbling fumbling mess!

Whenever you were new at something.

So here is a story about learning.

When I started to walk, I was a fumbling bumbling mess and I fell a lot

When I was potty trained, my parents tell that it was not pretty

When I started to write, it didn’t look like it made sense, and sometimes it still doesn’t

When I started to read, I didn’t understand many of the words

When I started to speak my native language (guess what my native language is and you will get the Stating The Obvious Award,) I learned from my elders

When I learned how to speak English, some people made fun of me and some helped me out and mentored me

When I became a Dad for the first time, I made a lot of mistakes that I will never make again with my younger kids

When I entered into relationship with my wife, I had to learn some very hard lessons. But it was worth it.

Every first job I had, I was lousy at it in the beginning

In every business that I started, I failed and then succeeded and some times I just plain sucked.

The first time I kissed, I left a big sloppy mess on that poor girl

This is not how it went down

The first time I had Se… Well you get the picture!

Well what I am trying to say here is that on this next stage in my life, I’m sure that I will make a lot of mistakes and will have to get past through my fears, but like all other things I will eventually get better and better.

I will use this experiences to help anyone who is willing to put their fears aside.

I have had many teachers and mentors before, I have learned much from them and I want to give back by making other peoples life’s better just like they did with mine.

I will until… I get it or until I die!

Have an awesome day.

Douglas E. Valenzuela